It’s easy to get locked up in the expectations of others. We can get so fixated on what we should be doing that we loose sight of the need to do things which lock in with our core values. Contrary to popular media opinion, most of us have a good grasp of doing the right thing, even when it’s uncomfortable. That knowledge is what generates the feeling of discomfort in the first place.
That uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach is a warning. It’s a physical manifestation of the fears, knowledge and core values that are all running through your head. Need to have a talk with the boss? Have that horrid feeling of doom in your stomach? Odds are that you are saying something that needs saying. You just aren’t sure it’s going to be received well.
That’s not a reason to not say it. Understand that when you avoid those moments, and avoid those conversations, you don’t resolve the issue. You just chip away at your own inner happiness. Eventually things will eat at you to the point where it bleeds over into your personal life. In extreme cases, you can lose your life.
Taking the steps to confront the issue will often make the butterflies in your stomach worse. But by taking action, you take the next steps towards living a better and more authentic life. It’s not always easy, and at times it doesn’t always feel right. But eventually you realize that by saying what needed saying, you sleep better at night.
I like sleeping well. I like seeing the person in the mirror each morning. If you don’t, it may be time to have a conversation with someone.