Change and comfort are polar opposites. Where you have one, the other can’t exist. This is part of the reason it’s so difficult for people who need to have things in their life shift. After a period of time, the pain that inspires change becomes comfortable, and then familiar. Humans like comfort. It feels good.
Change does not feel good. It causes both physical and emotional pain. Without a willingness to push through the pain and discomfort, you can’t achieve a state of change. Just like a chemical reaction, things in your life have to reach a boil, you have to have some sort of significant reaction to manifest change. Change requires a catalyst.
This is why major life events can help prompt a change. The event acts as a catalyst and sparks a reaction that starts the change. It’s up to you to keep the reaction going.